Anger

IN ORDER TO CONTAIN THE IMMEDIATE FEELING OF ANGER AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, SO THAT IT DOES NOT EXTEND TO VIOLENCE (GENERALLY SEEN AS AN ACT OF POWER, ATTEMPTING TO TAKE INORDINATE CONTROL OVER A SITUATION OR ANOTHER PERSON), ASK:

1/ What is the actual source of irritation? What is it that is making me feel angry?

2/ Why am I feeling anger and not some other emotion?

3/ Am I jumping to conclusions about the situation or person who is making me angry?

4/ Is my anger really justified?

5/ Do I really need to feel inferior or threatened in this anger-arousing situation? Am I really as inferior as this situation or person might suggest?

6/ How might others including the person who is angering me, view the situation?

7/ Is there another way in which I can look at the situation?

8/ Are there things I can do to change the situation in order to reduce my anger?

9/ Whenever someone belittles, acts superior, or is hostile towards you think of who or what has been bugging them! Your awareness of the forces responsible for any person’s behaviour will help you feel less inferior and thus less hostile.

PREVENTION:

1/ Discipline the mind-avoid negative ruminating!

2/ Avoid anger-arousing situations!

3/ Continue to evaluate situations and see things from others’ points of view.  Quickly deal with situations when it’s needed.

4/ Learn self-respect!

5/ Let go and give it over.